These Things take Time

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An eight-year-old boy experiences his first heartbreak when he falls in love with his male third-grade teacher. Submitted by Marvin.


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  1. Well . . . for any faults that may be found in this little short film, I have to give kudos to the director for the climactic scene—a creative approach to capturing one of those moments in a person’s life when the ground seems to give way beneath you. Even more praise for the young actor—that slow transition from hopeful expectancy to tearful devastation just broke my heart.

    With that one scene being captured so well, it is hard for me to be critical of the film as a whole. But I do have to express my disappointment over the implied message that the boy’s crush on his teacher was perpetuated by an emotionally distant (and often absent) father. That is an old ideology that conveniently ignores the many biological factors that contribute to sexual orientation.

    1. They couldn’t have made the movie had they pushed things further than they did. In Sweden this is called the Opinion corridor ( One is not allowed to walk outside this narrow corridor of acceptable opinions, dictated by the liberal establishment. This movie is already dangerously close to the walls of the corridor. Walls made of fire, which would burn your flesh should you ever touch them…

      1. @Love, I surmise that the “Opinion corridor” is not exclusive to the Left, it only seems that way in Sweden as it is a leftist country. The Opinion corridor is much more narrow in Rightist places. It seems to be a human construct, just go to fascist or authoritarian places.
        I like that the movie shows affection, and point out that love and affection, having a “crush” or affection for someone need not be sexual in basis. Some people call it friendship.
        In this film the “power relationship” of student/teacher needs to be taken into account and needs to define the behavior of the teacher particularly. Also the degree of youth of the young man necessitates care on the part of the adult.

        1. Hungary may be a good example of Opinion corridors under right wing (Viktor Orban started in left wing) with the Opinions being mandated by the government, though many right wing governments govern by Opinion corridors. Of course, previous left wing governments did mandate a lot under the Nazi (started out left wing), Soviet Union and PRC which have all shifted right wing. Perhaps current left wing systems utilize Opinion corridors as a form of dictatorship of democracy, which needs only 51% to mandate anything. That is why something such as a Bill of Rights is important or minorities will get overwhelmed.

          1. In smaller countries the problem isn’t mainly with the law (though it is certainly *one* of the problems in Sweden).

            The main problem is that there is only a handful of national newspapers and TV channels*, that they all have their headquarters in central Stockholm and that their journalists all live in the same districts of central Stockholm have have gone to the same Journalist School in Stockholm (or the one in Gothenburg). They walk on the same streets, have their kids in the same schools and train at the same gyms. All in central Stockholm.

            Hardly surprising they end up all having the same set of opinions. It’s a bit like a sect.

            *Of the four papers that (aspire to) have national coverage, two are owned by the powerful Bonnier family and two by the equally powerful Schibsted Media Group. Both also have a large ownership in the largest private TV channel, TV 4 (there are two channels with even larger viewership but they are run by the state…).

          2. @Love You are describing what is a big problem when it happens, media consolidation. That has happened in the usa and it is a big problem. Best of luck to you

  2. He’s definitely very cute. Average story and most of the acting. But, I’ll say, during the emotional scene with the boy and the teacher, it showed there was an amazing connection between the boy and the director (of course, assuming it was done it ‘one take’, one day).

  3. The teacher is essentially responsible for teaching kids how to love and how to divulge it. The response to a kid who stole his father’s watch for proving his love is not to break his heart. Until when they want to make such sad movies? Good that it ends with his happiness.

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