The Real Thing

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The seven-minute film The Real Thing, which screened at the 2017 Outfest in Los Angeles and the 2018 New England Film Festival, follows Allie (Sophie Giannamore), who has transitioned while her soldier father has been on an active tour of duty.

Unfortunately for Allie, her classmates and teachers have yet to accept her as her authentic self ― and when she returns home to spot her dad standing in her room, she’s worried he’ll react similarly.

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  1. Observant parents often know or at least suspect if their child is homosexual very early on – the ‘coming out’ scene may be, for them, anticlimactic. I would imagine that a gender dysphoric child might display similar clues. Forewarned is forearmed, parents in these circumstances should have resigned themselves to the inevitable beforehand.
    Even so, a soldier deployed to a combat zone has enough to worry about without this going on at the home front. Doing this while Dad is away was cruel and disloyal, and a thoroughly unwarranted diminution of the importance of fatherhood.

    (Don’t waste your time trying to change my mind, and I don’t care how you feel about my position.)

    1. Horselips, that is complete bollocks……… Like Alli had the nuanced understanding of how her “cruel and disloyal” behaviour would affect her dad. And (naturally) I care not one whit as to what you cannot change in you mind. Suffice it to say my father was away in the Roal Navy fighting the Korean war….. Upon his return, my ONLY expectation was that he loved me unconditionally as much as I loved him unconditionally. It sufficed for both of us!!!
      Have to say that film brought me to tears! I so remember going to the naval base in Portland (UK) to seeing dad come off the submarine with us welcoming him home.

  2. Your argument posits that people have an obligation to put their own lives on hold because one family member is away for months or years, even if the absent individual knowingly chose a career where such prolonged absences are inevitable. This would effectively devalue all other family member’s needs in favor of the absent one’s.

    There is no moral basis for such a de-valuing. A child’s needs are as valid as a parent’s and arguably more urgent, as a child experiences life changes at a rapider pace than an adult.

    Your argument also suggests that a child should understand the complexities and challenges faced by a working adult and make decisions informed by such an understanding. This is absurd. Children lack such knowledge or experience and the empathy that comes with them.

    Here’s a hard truth: children grow up – which means they change. If a parent wishes to be involved in the major events of their children’s lives, they should choose a career that permits that, or wait until their career stabilizes before parenting.

    Your final, dismissive imprecation is less rational than most of your posts. One senses a personal bias in favor of the military and militarism. I wouldn’t attempt to change that bias or your mind, but it’s worth pointing out for others’ consideration. Unexamined loyalties may lead to unexpected and perhaps undesired outcomes. Fortunately for the child in this film, her father’s love overcame his biases and prior loyalties – and that benefitted them both.

    1. Thank you for your really splendid response. My primary objection centered on Dad reading the letter in which he’s informed there is some big thing going on, but he’s not told what, just that it will have to be talked about. Allie doesn’t how Dad will react when they first see each other. It’s apparent that one parent wasn’t involved in this until after the fact. I just got the feeling Mom handled the whole issue very poorly.

      1. “My primary objection centered on Dad reading the letter in which he’s informed there is some big thing going on, but he’s not told what……”
        except (of course) he knew her name was “Alli” – it was presumed that the letter told him (at least) the (bare) details given that he could not have known her new name in any other way than mum’s letter to him. Anyway I loved the short film!!

  3. No argument there. She could and probably should have informed Dad more completely and involved him in the decision and its progress. This would have reduced suspense and angst – for both Dad and Allie.

    Of course this would also make the story less engaging, at least for an audience. In this, we may detect that authorial manipulation of moral truths and decisions that underlies many dramatic works – from Lucy repeatedly pulling the football away from Charlie Brown to the murderous acts of Lear’s daughters, and the hapless, perennial denials engaged in by each of those tragic victims.

  4. The authentic self as here is as real as the authentic self who kills first and asks later, as if it matters then. Any person is authentic as they deal with the real world and work in society and make a useful self of their self, as well a making an eating and living life and live with the record keepers of the government. Men in he military USA who insist they are women are as authentic as they make it. The reality is they make the military different on the battle field how as any authentic is a making a real, an authentic. IF they show such, then, there is not much to say. But the being males as girls is also irrelevant there by And, there is no such evidence. . . . .

    1. Being authentic is more than a show. If one succeeds in fooling enough to get a few million, then one is an authentically successful fraud. A boy is authentically a boy because the they say so, and he has a penis to show. A boy has no authentic cunt to demonstrate the self as a girl, as the they say so must be so. if a boy wants to be a girl it is never a matter of authenticity. the boy wants and acts like as is as good as. Authentic WHAT ? Boy Girl is as old as history. .

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