Stay Weird

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Graham Moore gave a very candid speech while accepting the Oscar for Best Adapted Screenplay for The Imitation Game, a film about gay codebreaker and computer pioneer Alan Turing.

”When I was 16 years old I tried to kill myself because I felt weird and I felt different and I felt like I did not belong, and now I’m standing here,” he said on stage Sunday night. ”I would like for this moment to be for that kid out there who feels like she’s weird or she’s different or she doesn’t fit in anywhere. Yes you do. I promise you do. Stay weird. Stay different, and then when it’s your turn, and you are standing on this stage, please pass the same message along.”

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  1. “Stay weird. Stay different …”

    That instantly reminded me of ‘Johnny’ in The Outsiders telling ‘Ponyboy’ to, “stay gold [and always remember that sunset].”

  2. It seems to me lately that people confuse being interesting with being weird. It has nothing to do.

    1. Nah, it’s more about finding interesting weird. Slight difference in saying it but big difference. Don’t do this, don’t say that, don’t make waves, SHUT UP!

      I watched the Oscars last night. First time in years.It had a few lows but one of the highest was what Moore said. In fact it wasn’t simply about gays and LGBTs but about everyone out there that tries to walk or is walking a different path. Ironic isn’t it? Someone will dress up as Elvis and be respected but being a nerd can get you in deep pain. That was his point.

      1. What I meant is that some people (which I respect but not agree) dress up as total nerds, behave as total nerds and complain that no one wants to hang around with them. Having a different point of view in some things, having a different hobbie that you can talk about makes you both different and interesting. Being a weirdo doesn’t. There was a girl in my class some years ago that walked without shoes because “she believed in energies”. That’s just being out of your fucking mind really.

      2. @alex & Dan:
        “it’s more about finding interesting weird.”

        OR, it’s more about finding weird interesting. :-)

      3. @Old Dan:
        “So, one must behave normally?”

        If we relied on or even required everyone to behave normally, then none of us would even be around to write about “weird.”

    1. Actually I did get your point. Seriously I did. A valid point, to a point. But I also saw something more. We do live in a society where normality is the rule. The problem is that normality is this weird indescribable thing that people use to control others. Tuck your shirt in, wear a uniform, get a haircut, go to church, don’t draw a gun with your crayon. Like it or not. Moore actually addressing all of those supposed rules that are supposed to make one normal. You yourself found a girl too weird because she walked barefoot. She was happy doing so. It was her thing. Why should it be unacceptable to you? Or to anyone else? You are gay. So am I. We are unacceptable to so many out there. Should we care about pleasing them because they are offended? Your answer should apply to both that girl and to us also! That was my point.

      A point of clarification. In a recent rerun of those Law & Order episode Logan has a talk with his mother. She is schizophrenic. She dealt with it by being “eccentric”. A lot of people cope that way. Some are even well known artists. Of course it’s not always about schizophrenia but I’m sure you see my point. We all need to be who we are, not what others want us to be. Which brings me to a new TV program. I’ve only seen the trailer but it’s about a man that has decided to wear dresses. His/her daughter asks him if he’s now going to dress like a woman. The answer is awesome. He/her says “I always dressed like a man.” As in faking it. Faking who she really was. A question of normality.

  3. ”When I was 16 years old I tried to kill myself because I felt weird and I felt different and I felt like I did not belong, and now I’m standing here-”
    ”I would like for this moment to be for that kid out there who feels like she’s weird or she’s different or she doesn’t fit in anywhere.”
    ~Don’t know why he used she’s/she rather than {they’re/they} but considering his surprise at winning and it being the Oscars he got his point across.

    ❦Barring going barefoot as your personal weirdness I think his primary message was don’t allow people to change who you are or destroy that which makes you complete; you will get over the hump if you stick it out though it most probably won’t be easy.

    1. There is no need to take things to extremes. It’s not about being normal or being weird. It’s about common sense. We all live in a society, not in the middle of the woods.

      1. Define common sense. sounds like sheepling to me. Take my own eccentricity. I like seeing things out of the box because conventional just isn’t enough for me.

        1. @Dan:
          “Define common sense. sounds like sheepling to me.”

          Are you even away of the enormous double door you just opened?

          I am sooooooooooo tempted …………….

  4. This sniveling little shit should feel ashamed for slandering both Turing and homosexual people. The wartime codebreaker and computing genius was pursued for homosexuality, but nobody – until this lying bastard came along – accused him of being a traitor to the British Government.

    Turing was somewhat eccentric, but charismatic, and beloved by his friends and colleagues, and not an autistic, self-hating closet case. He never hid his homosexuality and was never ashamed of it.

    The scene where he was crying and needed the help of his lady friend, pathetic and weak, and ashamed, made me vomit. Of course as weak faggot that dies is more easy to digest by the public.

    I won’t waste my time nitpicking all of its grievances and mistakes. Had it portrayed his actual personality, and what his work was about, and actually gave credit to everyone that worked on the code, both at Bletchley and the Polish intelligence officers, then maybe I might look past its less stupid narrative decisions made in the name of making the story more easily accessible to the unwashed, homophobic masses.

    I watched it, and rate it 3/10.
    Waste of time and money. If you must see it, only to convince yourselves what a bad movie it is, then please pirate it instead.

    1. @Julian

      What a weird comment! teasing!!! From what I’ve seen around the web about Turing his homosexuality was seen as a security risk! He was known to be gay and didn’t even hide it but used it against him to expel him from other secret projects because he could be bribed by the “enemy” by being threatened to have his non secret exposed. Talk about dumb. I will always wonder where the computer science would be today if he had still been able to work.

      There is the following clause in a movie. Liberties are taken with historical facts to make the movie more enjoyable. That is their escape clause when they are caught lying. A bit like when I was in Philosophy 101 where they completely omitted to tell us the real reason why Socrates had to commit suicide.


      I was using “sheepling” as a verb. LOL As in people walking on a path only to get down on all fours saying “baaaa, baaaa, baaaa who cares. You know? Sheeples!

      1. @Dan:
        “I was using ‘sheepling’ as a verb.”

        Yes, I know …. as is “sheepling”: The act of being a “sheep” and we all know how baaaad, baaaad, baaaad that is, don’t we?

    2. I have not seen the movie so i can’t judge but I agree with most of your points. There is too much self-pity and autocompasion. People just love to be victimized for everything. For god sake, just stand up and behave like a man. By the way, it’s very pathetic and a total call for attention to tell in public that you tried to kill yourself. A friend of mines mother had depression not long ago, fortunately she’s all right now, and it’s the last thing they wants to talk about. I just can’t imagine someone who suffered from it airing such private feelings on television. I can only see a pathetic whining little shit desperate for attention and saying bullshit advice.

      1. It’s almost as if different people have different ways of dealing with traumatic experiences! But please tell me more about how something is not a legitimate way of doing so just because you “can’t imagine it”…

        1. It’s just my opinion. Everyone is entitled to one and mine is that he is pathetic. I’m not trying to impose anything, just show my point of view.

  5. @Alex

    Ok, it’s just your opinion. I’ll buy that or maybe not. It’s not a sufficient argument in this case. You have shown a cold heartedness that is unbelievable. At least that is my opinion backed up by fart too many personal experiences, including the loss of a friend. People didn’t even want to talk about him after his suicide. He was basically to be erased from memory, to become a non person. Refusing to talk about that kind of subject is inflicting even deeper injuries. Boy do cry and sometimes even die. At least let it stop happening in silence. Behave like a man my ass.

    1. Socrates dies after 70+ years. There may be in that life a little less honesty here and may be a little less honesty there. But, fuck you all in the end. The APOLOGY is not any express of sorrow for any wrongs. [ Those who say that they apologize and fail to say, and show, that they are sorry, are not, thusly and evidentially, sorry, and that is a fuck you of a different sort ]

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