Son of a Preacher Man

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Singer Tom Goss gives Dusty Springfield’s classic tune “Son of a Preacher Man” a surprising queer twist in this music video. The video tells the story of the sweet-talkin’ teenage son of an anti-gay preacher who falls in love with another teenager in his dad’s congregation…

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  1. Awww.. so sweet. Kind of went through the same thing when I was 13, but I didn’t walk off with him like that.

  2. Growing up queer in the last half of the 20th century was a seriously risky business and that meant you learned discretion. When boys got together to enjoy each other, secrecy was everything; we weren’t just jacking buddies, we became the Ninja. Always quiet, we were attuned to the slightest sound outside our love nests. Nothing that went bump in the night escaped our emergency reaction. And so, we never got caught. Lots and lots of close calls, and had we been any less aware of every habit and routine of everyone in the households we played in, we would have been busted for sure. No doubt about it, the danger was part of the thrill, keeping our little secret and hiding our private truth in plain sight just made the whole thing even more delicious.

    That said, I have to give this generation a helluva lotta credit. Yeah, the colleges are full of snowflakes and cupcakes – pathetic losers all – but among this generation of gay youth are boys born with brass balls. These are some of the bravest young’uns that ever lived. They’re coming out, come what may, something I could never, and would never, ever do, except in an anonymous forum like this. Sure, the culture is much more with them today, homosexuality isn’t a felony any more – gay rights and gay marriage have taken law enforcement out of the picture, but the level of courage it takes to be an openly gay teenager is still awesome. Keep on carrying on.

    1. I never thought I would say this, but I agree with you Horsy. I too grew up in that era and I know just what you are saying. I did all that. And I would do it all again. It was so worth the risk. And I too admire the kids today and where they are in their coming out process. We are moving forward despite some of the setbacks from time to time. Someday, not in my life time, none of this will seem important and people will look back at history and say “what was all the fuss about”. So I say onward, and never look back.

    2. @horsey, Erik:

      I second the agreement — pretty much all of it. Only the “getting caught” part I can’t … I was “caught” in the private religious boarding school I went to for high school. And I was punished for just touching another boy’s penis when I was around 15 (he was around 14) because someone [I know who] “ratted” on me just so he could be in “good graces” and get more privileges.

      The punisher told me that it wasn’t “to be” for a boy to touch another boy. To which I promptly asked, “Why? We both wanted to and enjoyed it.” Then HE replied, “This isn’t the way in the bible.” To which I promptly retorted, “That’s not going to stop us.”

      Then I was told one of the most common phrase in that school: “Assume the position.” And then I was belted 15 times in just my brief underwear for being caught touching another boy in an all-boys’ school.

      To better understand: Each dorm had 6 bedrooms with 3 bathrooms in between them and each room housed 6 boys (bunkbeds).

  3. First, I understand the video and the message it’s conveying, BUT, leave the singing of THAT SONG to Dusty Springfield — and leave it the CLASSIC that it truly is, even if it’s a “gay version.”

    Btw, for any of you who watched The Fosters, Season 2 “The Kiss,” did you notice the “look” just before these two kissed?


    “But right in the midst of that passage, right in the middle of that verse, it says, ‘And those who are homosexual.’ That’s not ambiguous.”

    He LIED, not once, BUT TWICE. That’s TWO verses he referenced, NOT ONE [that]. And it DOESN’T MENTION “HOMOSEXUAL”. There are MANY heterosexuals that are “effeminate.” [They may actually be bisexual, but I won’t get into that right now.] And, “nor abusers of themselves with mankind”? “Mankind” is more often used to reference humanity, not “males” exclusively or selectively.

    What he referenced:
    1 Corinthians 6:9-10 9. Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10. Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

    But, just like ALL religious, he’s a LIAR. Because you/they [religious] must LIE to themselves, at the very least to believe any of that BULLSHIT. So, they LIE to everyone else because they think they need to pass on the bullshit to all so they aren’t told they are the LIARS that they are.

    You’ll say, “This is jut in the video.” No, it’s NOT. Priests, pastors, preachers pass on this SAME LIE to their congregations every week.

    But, the video is pretty good otherwise. :-)

    1. I dunno – last Sunday a lady friend and I attended Mass together. During the responsorial prayers, Father went through the usual litany of those we pray for – the suffering, the afflicted, our Bishop, Pope Francis, our political leadership, first responders in harm’s way, and so forth, but he also included “those struggling with minority sexual orientations.” No elaboration, no condemnation, no hate, not judgmental in any way. Just prayers for the folks who aren’t yet comfortable with themselves. He also didn’t pray for any cure or healing or therapy to change them. Just open-ended prayers. The congregation was fine with it. I felt good. Catholicism! Who’da thunk it?

      1. “Father went through the usual litany of those we pray for – the suffering, the afflicted, our Bishop, Pope Francis, our political leadership, …”

        Why the fuck do your bishop, pope and political “leadership” [that’s a laugh] NEED any stupid self-centered “prayers? They’re all WEALTHY ENOUGH to get their top-notch health care and will have the best retirements. And they’re all fed (TOO) well by the looks of their FAT BODIES. Those are the VERY LEAST who NEED anything even remotely like a “prayer”.

        That shows just how fucking stupid you religious are about your “tenents” — nothing but a total waste of resources and time. “Prayers” don’t do a fucking thing but make the one ‘praying’ feel good about him/herself.

        Instead of “praying,” how about this? Get that GOLD CROSS the pope carries around, HOCK IT FOR THE MONEY (IT WILL FETCH A BUNCH ON EBAY) and, oh, I don’t know … maybe get some of those homeless in Rome off the streets and give them some food and clothing. That would be better than any fucking stupid “prayer.” Homeless can’t EAT a “prayer.”

  4. This song has always been “my” song because my cousin was my first gay sex partner and he was, as the song says, a son of a preacher man. Even though we stopped after our teen years we are still good friends. I even played this song for him once (the Dusty version) and told him whenever I heard it, I thought of him.

    Also, in the video, the boy in the white pants. He’s got on loose briefs and his stuff is just bouncing around for all to notice. Awesome, reminds me of myself as a teen.

  5. I didn’t wait for Tom Goss to “subvert” the song to a gay meaning, and I am sure many gays did too, especially since Dusty Springfield looks like a drag queen on the cover of the single: ;)

    Great video, the last scene at the church reminded me a bit of The Graduate, when Dustin Hoffman enters the church, steals the bride and they run away together. No wonder, the movie was only 2 years before this song.

    1. “and I am sure many gays did too,”
      I’m pretty sure you meant, “didn’t either.”

      “especially since Dusty Springfield looks like a drag queen on the cover of the single:”
      She may look that way to US, NOW, in the 21st Century, but you need to understand photography and the way women wore makeup back in the early 60s.

      Before that single (1969), she was the lead vocalist in The Springfields which she and her brother founded.

      Their biggest hit was Silver Threads and Golden Needles many years before her solo, Son Of A Preacher Man. Look it up, she did a great version of that song.

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