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        1. You are correct….young pic of him…some older pics of him really make him look like he did not age well at 22yrs….

  1. there’s a guy on Instagram called yam_wol who quite resembles this one, and often takes his shirt off

  2. Every time I see a good looking teen wearing a ‘one-piece’ outfit like that, I immediately think of Björn Andrésen in Death In Venice.

  3. Life’s small connections… Death in Venice

    One of my best afternoons as a young teenager was when, unknown to my parents, I went by myself to Glasgow to watch ‘Lawrence of Arabia’ in the cinema. Exciting afternoon somewhat spoiled by too many creepy old men smiling at me for no reason I could understand. (Railway stations too were always a hazard for me up until about age 20.)

    Anyway, so surprised reading Dirk Bogarde’s biography years later and finding out he was sexually assaulted as a teenager in that same cinema when he snuck off school for an afternoon. He wrote so sadly about that.

    Great name though:
    Sir Derek Jules Gaspard Ulric Niven van den Bogaerde

    PS
    It’s never been contentious for me to think about the bad reputation of some men and then the wider much tainted thing of homosexuality. My own experience as a boy of unwanted attentions was not pleasant. Nothing awful ever happened but the potential was always there. Plenty of boys were and are less lucky.

    1. “spoiled by too many creepy old men smiling at me for no reason I could understand. … My own experience as a boy of unwanted attentions was not pleasant. Nothing awful ever happened but the potential was always there.”

      Why didn’t you just accept it as what it really was ….. the ultimate compliment(s) of your looks/body?

      After I graduated from high school and just before I went into the military (I was 19½ at that time), I came out to Los Angeles for about a week to explore what we in the mid-west just called “The City” because of the surf, art, movie and car culture.

      Since I had no car there, I simply walked everywhere. I walked the entire distance from E. Hollywood down Sunset Blvd to the West Hollywood area. During that trek, I sat at many bus stops to rest for a few minutes. Invariably, some man would pull up to the bus stop and ask politely if I wanted a ride. I turned them all down because I enjoyed the walking experience and “scenery” — to “take it all in” while I was there. I remember thinking at the time, “Wow. There are a lot of very nice people in L.A. to offer me a ride so often.” I didn’t have any idea of their intent at that time — I was still “wet behind the ears” and had only one sexual encounter then — with my ex-classmate from my high school that lived in the area.

      I never thought any ill-will of any of those who offered me a ride.

      1. That’s it though…..
        At that age you just have no idea what’s going on and you are far too trusting of people. You are a target.

        So, frankly it’s deplorable to think older men can think it fair to cruise to hit on younger men, actually boys. There are shades of grey though, we all know that and years ago when Grindr first appeared I was chatted up by I think total 3 teens and one them only 17 I recall. My age then was 50+ and quite shocked at the explicit offers forthcoming, one especially insistent to the point he got blocked.
        Here in Texas, again on Grindr I was pestered for a few months by a couple where the older partner wanted a threesome with him watching me doing his teen ‘boyfriend’. Phew! Difficult to think of that as an affectionate relationship. In fact I deleted Grindr mostly because of that Texas crap.

        1. “So, frankly it’s deplorable to think older men can think it fair to cruise to hit on younger men, actually boys.

          First, once one enters into puberty, he’s no longer “a boy” but a young man (still with some learning and maturing to happen, to be sure). As for older men ‘hitting’ on younger men — it’s the same with older men ‘hitting’ on younger women [notice I said women and not young girls]. It will be that way until the end of humanity — that’s what’s known as the social “natural selection.”

          The fact of the matter is, simply, older beings will ALWAYS look at and seek out the younger. It’s the natural order, actually — since the biological way of peaking their appearance and sexuality is when they’re younger — a primary reason that most people marry and START having children when they are in their younger, “prime” years [for child-bearing, at the least]. Why else would romances start at such young ages? Like it or not, some variance of youth is the primary ingredient for the vast majority of romances/sexual encounters [you know, the entire biological purpose of puberty at those ages].

          And to go back to your experiences, you admit that none of them harmed you in any way. So why the hatred of them doing doing what is really “expected” of them?

        2. One last thing …… Is it really necessary for me to point out that YOU are on THIS SITE ogling at these young men [<"boys" in your vernacular]?

          1. You don’t get it.

            Pretty girl, Pretty boy walks through the Mall and for sure heads turn and look.
            But, a boundary is there and like good manners are all about not giving offense then decorum is about not making anyone uncomfortable.

            A look and a smile is quite different from a leer.

            On the topic…..
            It’s a live discussion in the U.K. this past couple of years to make builders’ wolfwhistling illegal. That’s a catchall term and not specifically aimed at builders but at anyone to obviously shout out or highlight a passing girl’s attractiveness. Simultaneously with more people opening up about abuse they’ve kept hidden there are many coming forward about how awful they feel when they are subjected to ‘wolfwhistling’.

            Looking at attractive boys on this site is not the same by a long shot – unless the subject person in each picture has not given permission – then that is a problem.

            I think that was already discussed on Milkboys years ago too when the brilliant board was active.

    2. “You don’t get it.”

      Yes I do and I was pointing out blatant hypocrisy by so many “do-gooders.”

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      “A look and a smile is quite different from a leer.”

      Not really. What’s so different if someone “stares [leers as you put it]” or if one keeps turning to look multiple times without “[actual] staring”?

      What you were pointing out are some of the legal constraints — not what actually can and does happen and will continue to happen throughout humanity.

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      “Looking at attractive boys on this site is not the same by a long shot – unless the subject person in each picture has not given permission– then that is a problem.”

      1. [bold] And we will never know because photos don’t show “age cards” of the recipient.

      2. And looking at boys on this [or any other source] is exactly the ‘same’ — because ALL OF US that visit here would be considered “leering” — except that it’s a photo or video and not live persons.

      1. I forgot to add after: “except that it’s a photo or video and not live persons.”

        Whoever took the photos or shot the videos are the ones who could be classified as “leerers” and therefore are our proxy leerers

        And how would you classify those among us who have a boyfriend/lover but still come her to view the photos and videos?

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