Gay Man’s Worst Friend

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In the early years of this blog the glossy Destroyer Journal from Swedish queer activist & troublemaker Karl Andersson was a steady source of inspiration. It was the first magazine that dared to put teenage boys into a perspective that modern society had reserved for adolescent girls. What was normal for the latter—to be adored and idolised—was unforgivable once the same patterns were applied to boys.

The predictable outrage didn’t just come from the usual right-wing suspects but also, and even harsher, from the gay community. While love without boundaries was an ordinary part of the queer spectrum once (no matter if you take historical personalities like Oscar Wilde & Walt Whitman or the fact that mainstream gay mags in the 70s & 80s used to make no difference between teenagers and buff men when it came to lewd photos) it seems to have become somewhat of a dark family secret of the past that must be kept under the rug lest we fuel the “homos are pedos” argument and eventually lose the equal rights and fragile freedom we achieved over the last decades.

You can read the whole story in a recently published book. Gay Man’s Worst Friend is not only the thrilling story of Europe’s most controversial gay magazine, told from Stockholm, Prague and Berlin. It’s also the story of the gay movement in the 21st century. The outraged reactions to Destroyer expose hidden power structures and show how gay identity has been steadily shrunk over recent decades, excluding ever more expressions of queerness.

You can order the book at cmykrush.

Comments 4

  1. Absolutely true! When one considers the great attitudes we had during the 1960s and into the 1970s, what is called “gay” now is a very sad reflection on where we stand. When someone now asks me if I am “gay”, I give them a resounding “NO!” I am not “gay” in any possible context of the current situation.
    Anyone who studies the history of sexuality going back over 2500 years must feel as though we have landed on an alien planet.

  2. Destroyer was just one of a few. There was XY magazine which also celebrated adolescent boys. The trouble with some gay activists is their activism – their exaggerated sensitivity tends to over-analyze and over-politicize.

  3. Very true.
    I wish I had an adult lover and mentor in my teenage years. Later I became one for a teenage boy who grew up and as a bisexual, he now lives with a woman and has kids like me. These years were happiest an difficult at the same time. The boy was suicidal, we fought drugs and his depression together and at our departure he said me most rewarding words ever.. that I had been his teacher, lover and best friend.

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