Wish you were gay

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Singer songwriter Billie Eilish has released a new track called wish you were gay. She’s also donating a portion of proceeds from her clothing range to the Trevor Project. The move is part of a joint campaign coincide with the single’s release and her upcoming new album due out at the end of this month. The Trevor Project is an American organisation aimed at preventing suicides among queer kids.

The new track is from the singer’s upcoming new album When We Fall Asleep, Where Do We Go? The song is about wanting to be with someone so bad it hurts, and not wanting to accept that this person doesn’t want you in return, Billie said.

Asexuality is still a mystery to many

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Three-quarters of people can’t define asexuality, according to a survey. The poll asked British people how confident, if at all, they would be in defining asexuality. Of the 1,119 people questioned, 53% said they were confident in explaining the term. However, when they were put to the test 75´% were either wrong or did not know that asexual people do experience a sex drive.

An estimated 1% of the population are asexual. According to Stonewall, an asexual person is defined as someone who does not experience sexual attraction. However, there is a large amount of diversity among the asexual community, as there is among all groups under the queer umbrella.

Each asexual person experiences things like relationships, attraction and arousal differently and asexuality is a word that asexual people use to help identify and describe themselves.

What is asexuality?

According to the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (ASEN), asexuality is an intrinsic part of who a person is, like any other sexual orientation. The organisation describes an asexual person as someone who “does not experience sexual attraction”, meaning they are not drawn to people sexually and “do not desire to act upon attraction to others in a sexual way.”

A lack of information about asexuality means there are lots of misconceptions about it. AVEN (Asexuality Visibility and Education Network) explains: “Unlike celibacy, which is a choice, asexuality is a sexual orientation. Asexual people have the same emotional needs as everybody else and are just as capable of forming intimate relationships.”

Dr Michael Yates, clinical psychologist specialising in sexual health, said: “Sexual attraction is a motivation to engage in sexual activities with another person. It is possible to still have a sexual drive, but for that not to be directed at another person. For some asexual people, they may still have sexual feelings, they may masturbate, but that won’t be associated with fantasy or a desire to have sex with somebody else.”

The other F-Word

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Queer people have a complicated relationships with the word “faggot.” While we’re at a moment in time where lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people are slowly gaining rights and visibility, that doesn’t mean the stigma surrounding queer identity has dissipated. And, for some, the words that have historically been used to inflict pain on our community still hold a lot of power.

Some find power in taking back or reclaiming words — like “queer.” I use the word queer because I find it the best way to describe the vast spectrum of experiences and identities that receive visibility in our community — and because I think the word is the most inclusive. However, the word “faggot” still inspires a mixed response within the community, and that response is often due to context and intent.

Cut Video made similar videos about the word gay and the phrase being a man.

Brave Man

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A compelling music video from artist Will Young follows a transgender man as he strips down in a British pub and walks naked through a seaside town.

“Through tough times embracing myself as someone ‘different’ allowed me to embrace all differences in others, to embrace their vulnerability and their struggles as well as their inner strength and determination to be their true authentic selves. When I wrote the song, this is what I was referring to  — the determination in modern life to be my authentic self. In this video we see a man determined to be himself in the face of all adversity from inside and outside.”

Seashore

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The atmospheric coming-of-age drama Seashore (Beira-mar) is one of several additions to Brazilian queer cinema that came out over the last few years. This semi-autobiographical tale from Brazilian co-directors Filipe Matzembacher and Marcio Reolon stars Mateus Almada as the bi-curious Martin and Mauricio Barcellos as openly gay Tomaz.

The film’s languorous plot unfolds as the two teens embark on a road trip and then grapple with their sexuality against the backdrop of the Brazilian seashore.

Variety compared the film’s lingering and “lustful” cinematic gaze to that of Gus Van Sant and Larry Clark. Way Too Indie concluded: “Despite appearing rather empty on first sighting, if you let it, this film can deliver a powerful message. Let your wishes be free, and by the power of your own will, take the chance. And if all else fails, then you can start over again. It isn’t too constructive, but nothing in life ever seems to be. If you are a young male alone in this world that enjoys reflecting on desires, listening to the seashore, and watching beautiful independent films, then you categorically must see this film.”