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Many parents are worried by the idea their kid might be different. Some just worry about how to support their child in such a case. A dad who thinks his son might be gay has asked Reddit how he can show his son that he got his back.

The single dad stumbled across the reality TV show RuPaul’s Drag Race on his son’s Netflix account. At first taken aback, the dad asked the internet about some of the language on the show.

‘I was cleaning up his room while he was in the shower and I [see] this show (rupaul) was paused on Netflix,’ he wrote. ‘He has been using different kind of phrases like “the shade” and “I’m gagging” (that one worried me at first). I googled the shade and found it was a drag term but I didn’t understand it.’

The single dad of two boys aged 4 and 15, said the older boy was having some trouble at school, because of his shyness and stutter. He also believes his son might be gay and wants advice in how to be the best father he can be.

‘Is there any advice you can give me? I won’t embarrass him and start quoting the show but when he said he was “gagging” I had no idea how to react,’ he said. ‘I would like to know how to react. I was hoping I could get a crash course on this sort of chat.’

Reddit users inundated the dad with mostly positive replies giving all him all kinds of advice. Some suggested watching the vogue documentary ‘Paris is Burning’, while others pointed him to YouTube videos of famous Drag Race sayings.

Others said they wished they had parents as accepting as this man. ‘LMAO BICTH I SCREAMED. You’re an amazing parent for doing this (well, I don’t know you, but I can only assume so),’ wrote one Reddit user. ‘I only wish I had a parent that was interested in learning and not shunning gay culture.’

Photo by Prince Rabbit from softcreatures

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  1. That was a Russian troll account, not a real dad: There is no such thing as a shy drag queen. ;)

    Cool dad, he makes a great PFLAG ally for his son. Or maybe sons, as the smaller one statistically got an increased chance of being gay too…

    In all fairness, I’d be as embarrassed as this dad is regarding drag lingo. I haven’t, or hadn’t now, the faintest idea what these words mean. Drag is just not my thing or my scene, so I’ll leave it all to that kid, and to his dad “forcefully” embarked on the same TV trip.

    As soon as the kid is out of the closet, if I were his dad, I would organize a drag party for his birthday, with safe family and friends, and maybe invite some of the RPDR people too, regardless if he is into drags or just watches the show for fun as many do.

  2. From the brief account you posted, this dad seems like a very loving and accepting parent. Good for him. Also what I read into this is he’s looking for something like a “puberty manual” for a 21st century parent — not just jargon, but advice on how to handle his son’s possible/probable gayness and coming out.

    Stories like this shows that there really is a serious market for well-written “manuals” for their sons and daughters in this age — coming out, finding/getting dates (straight and gay), puberty in general and of course the current “lingo.” As long as they leave OUT the religious bullshit, and recognize that teens, both boys and girls of all ages are super-curious about their bodies and of course, SEX. And they can throw in some public etiquette as well.

  3. Great Dad!!!
    And I happen to find the pic both wonderful and beautiful.
    Why some people believe we should all be the same is beyond me; oh how boring that world would be…

  4. Really? A dad cleaning the kids room while he’s showering and just happened to stumble across the history in his web browser?

    Not buying it at half the price.

    The kid in the pic is pretty cute tho

    1. Maybe the boy did this knowing his Dad is pretty liberal with sex/sexuality? Maybe it was way of coming out of the closet while he was in the shower? Maybe he knew his Daddy would find it, and that was the reason? It doesn’t say if he is attracted to boys in drag or wants to be one? Good one Daddy. Well done.

      1. Too many maybes. Still not buying it.
        Totally fabricated.

        Boy is still cute no matter what we think of the story.

  5. I wasn’t aware being gay meant watching RuPaul. I guess I’ll start speaking in a lisp, wearing makeup, and using stupid slang in every sentence. I’m just not gay enough if I don’t.

    1. You read much more into it than what it says. And there’s straight and “wide-minded” people who watch the show too.

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