Greyson’s Gay

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Greyson Chance first made waves in public with an amazingly accomplished cover of “Paparazzi” by Lady Gaga, which went viral after he performed it for Ellen DeGeneres at the age of 12.

Today, Greyson has announced on Instagram that he’s gay, and explains why it took him a bit of time to acknowledge his sexuality.

“I came to fully recognize that I was gay when I was sixteen,” he writes. “I decided not to publicize my sexuality largely due to a matter of privacy, as I was still trying to find comfort and confidence within my own skin.” He also explained his perspective that his sexuality wasn’t necessarily the most interesting topic of conversation: “I always found conversations regarding music, politics, art, books — and the greatness of Nas’ catalog —to be far more interesting than what type of guy I was into. This is still true today.”

He changed his mind after reading an inspirational message from one of his fans, which made him realize the importance of LGBTQ visibility — even if you have to find it on your own terms.

“I encourage anyone who is navigating their sexuality to devote as much time as they need to the process of finding self-confidence, self-acceptance, and self-love,” he says. “Hell, for me, it took years to write this message.”

The decision to write this came after I received a message from a brave individual. Such message inspired me to shed light on an aspect of my private life which I have kept distant from my career in music. I came to fully recognize that I was gay when I was sixteen. I decided not to publicize my sexuality largely due to a matter of privacy, as I was still trying to find comfort and confidence within my own skin. Further, I always found conversations regarding music, politics, art, books – and the greatness of Nas’ catalog – to be far more interesting than what type of guy I was into. This is still true today. While this message is most definitely overdue, I encourage anyone who is navigating their sexuality to devote as much time as they need to the process of finding self-confidence, self-acceptance, and self-love. Hell, for me, it took years to write this message. Nevertheless, I figured now was the time to let a few more friends know that I am happy, I am here for you, and I am proud of who I am. Cheers -G

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Saving the Lives of Trans Kids is easy: Accept Them.

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The transgender community has disproportionately high levels of depression and anxiety. Though some foolish physicians have suggested this is a fundamental part of being trans, a new study shows that trans kids who are accepted display virtually the same anxiety level as any other kid.

There are disproportionately high rates of anxiety, depression, and suicide among transgender people in the United States. One familiar statistic shows that a startling 41 percent of trans people attempt to take their own life. This data has been used to undermine the gender transition process: Some foolish physicians have suggested that high rates of psychological issues imply that being transgender is destructive to mental health. Meanwhile, trans advocates have argued that mental anguish in the trans population is the result of environmental factors like discrimination, rejection, and harassment—and not the process of transition itself.

New research published in the medical journal Pediatrics corroborates that claim, suggesting that trans kids who are accepted by their communities do not experience disproportionately high rates of mental health issues. The study measured self-reported feelings of anxiety and depression in a given week among 73 transgender children between the ages of three and 12 years old. As NBC reported, “They found the transgender kids averaged an anxiety score of 50.1 on a National Institutes of Health scale—almost the same as the national norm of 50.”

Dr. Stephen Russell is a professor at the University of Texas at Austin specializing in child development and the co-author on another recent study looking at the mental health of LGBT youth. In an interview with Broadly, he explained, “There is no question that disproportionate rates of mental health problems among trans people are due to stigma, discrimination, and hostility in our culture (transphobia).”

“Children look to their primary caregivers for nurturance and support,” he continued. “True rejection is evolutionarily devastating.” Dr. Russell says that in most species it is typically taboo to reject offspring, but something has occurred in our culture that has made it socially acceptable to reject transgender or LGB children.

According to Dr. Russell, we’re just beginning to uncover the real, lasting impacts of discrimination on well-being and health. “We are seeing that even at a physiological level, discrimination may make people chronically physically and mentally stressed.” Transgender kids today may be the first generation of trans youth to grow up with a heightened degree of cultural awareness around trans identity, as well as increased social acceptance. For the majority of trans people who did not grow up in an accepting environment, their coming-of-age process has often been mired in prejudice. It is important for these trans people to learn how to move beyond the trauma of rejection in formative years.

“Acknowledging those experiences is one important step (and the problem with discrimination is that it is usually stigmatized – we often find it too painful to talk about),” Dr. Russell said, adding that in his research he’s observed that “people who are the victims of harassment and discrimination often feel like a burden to the people who matter the most—even when they are supportive. They often feel that they are ‘bringing them down’ because of their (often chronic) harassment or negative experiences.” It’s important for these kids to understand, he said, “that they aren’t a burden to us—that we are angry because we love them and care for them, not because we’d be better off without them.”

To the parents of transgender kids, Dr. Russell said: “Love your child.” That’s obvious, he added, but for parents it may mean an internal overhaul of biases and beliefs. “Examine your feelings and assumptions and biases about gender: boys and girls, men and women, and what you imagine for your child in the future,” Dr. Russell said, adding that parents should seek professional help if their feelings of discomfort are impacting their relationship with their child.

“Gender is a fundamental organizing principle of our society and culture and of growing up,” Dr. Russell explained. “I think gender non-conforming kids need for adults in their lives to say that and to acknowledge that they are special and brave for expressing themselves in ways that will often challenge other people. That is, they need acknowledgement that they may find themselves ‘going against the grain’—they need adults to acknowledge that and let them know that they support them and are proud of them because of, or despite, that.”

Growing up as a transgender kid can be intensely isolating and frightening. If your family rejects you and your peers reject you, it is possible to develop negative ideas about yourself and your identity, and these damaging views can last a lifetime, leading the trans person away from life-sustaining resources. “Gender non-conforming/trans children whose parents regulate their gender are among those that have the hardest time emotionally,” Dr. Russell said, leaving us with one last piece of advice: “Understand that gender is not just one thing. Just love your child for who your child is and will become.”

via Broadly

Welcome to the Future, Germany

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German chancellor Angela Merkel barely ever misses an opportunity to highlight Germany’s exemplary function when it comes to social values and tolerance–often conveniently ignoring that other European countries are frequently ahead in ensuring that laws are passed to curb discrimination of women, minorities and other groups too often left behind.

This is not to say that everything is bad in the EU’s largest member state. Germany did, for example, take in the second largest amount of war refugees per capita after Sweden. But in other areas Germany is still a rather slow-moving creature:

For more than a decade now conservative  powers in the country voiced their concern about the prospect of marriage equality and the right for same-sex couples to adopt children. The arguments mostly being the same fear mongering that you’ll find all over the world as soon as these subjects are brought up.

From gay marriage leading to bestiality to gay couples not being able to provide a stable family for kids (while 40% of straight marriages in Germany getting divorced doesn’t seem to be an issue).

Meanwhile it would be as easy as just taking a look at Germany’s neighbours to figure out that society did not dissolve into an anarchistic mess after gay marriage was legalised nor are children being eaten alive by the loving same-sex couples who were allowed to adopt them. The Netherlands, Sweden, Denmark, Norway, Belgium, France and many other countries are doing just fine despite achieving marriage equality in some cases over a decade ago.

But things are finally getting in motion it seems. With general elections happening in less than three months campaigns are in full swing and within the last few days something interesting transpired.

German politics usually go like this: Merkel’s party, The Christian Democrats (CDU) win the elections and the only question after is which other party gets to join them in a coalition to form the government. Currently three parties are likely candidates to partner up with the CDU: The Social Democrats (SPD), the Green Party (Grüne) and the Liberals (FDP).

All three of these parties recently announced that they will not be available for a coalition unless marriage equality will be part of the new government’s program thereby forcing Merkel and her party to give up their longstanding resistance against same-sex marriage unless they want to look like damn fools after the elections.

So while Merkel is reaping much praise right now for turning around on the issue, she basically did what she always does: Waiting for the very last, opportune moment to change her mind when party politics demand it.

Better late than never; better with the bitter aftertaste of political opportunism than not at all. Germany is arriving in the future and that’s a good thing.

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Skirts for Shorts

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Breaking gender norms, especially for practical reasons, is not just for queer activists. With temperatures sometimes close to 40°C currently plaguing many parts of Europe, there are school boys who also wanted in on the action.

Some had borrowed from girlfriends, others from sisters. A few had gone the extra mile and shaved their legs.

About 30 boys in  in Devon, England wore skirts to school in protest at being told they were not allowed to wear shorts to school. Head teacher Aimee Mitchell said shorts were ‘not part’ of the school uniform.

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How to deal with Hate

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It’s easy to get frustrated lately. It was never exactly a simple task for queer people to find their place within our society and while we made huge steps into the right direction over the last decades, a lot of work still remains to be done.

Sadly some of the achievements we celebrated in the past are being undone by right-wing politicians gaining new support in America and Europe. It seems like their success motivates many rather small-minded people to come out of their holes to tell you who you’re allowed to love, what you’re supposed to do with your body and which gender you have to live with.


Arguing with these people takes a lot of, often fruitless, effort and can suck all energy out of you. It can become tempting to answer their hate with aggression and cynicism. And while this kind of reply is understandable, it does feel more rewarding and satisfying to take their hateful messages and turn them into a sign of love and strength. And that’s exactly what some New Yorkers on Gay Street did…

You can read more about the incident here :) Submitted by Scatterbrain