A Thousand Years

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This is a bit really off-topic but maybe it can serve as a reminder to be nice to people online. Especially kids. Life is tough enough as it is for many of us, right? A few warm words can mean a lot.

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  1. ❦Very sweet, I totally agree… We can all be enriched by just a few kind words, even a simple thank you can brighten one’s day.

    1. He said he wanted to rap for him.

      Other than that, the heart strings have been tugged. Those last few lines really got me there. Dang onions!

  2. Our society has become remarkably striated over the past several decades. Young people especially never interact with anyone significantly different from themselves as equals. There is always some imposed power imbalance. So people don’t learn (and it is something which must be learned) how to deal with people younger or less capable or priveleged than themselves except by exerting control over them, and with people older or more capable they only know subservience. The Internet makes it possible for people to learn these things in a tremendously safe environment. People get worked up about ‘dangers’ online, but when it comes right down to it you’re still sitting in front of a device, safe in your home, looking at images, reading or hearing speech. And you have the power to walk away at any moment. It is fundamentally different from interacting with people face-to-face and can be better in a great many ways.

    I feel very lucky that I grew up at a time when the Internet was new, and primarily text-based. Bandwidth limitations meant no audio and certainly no video was possible. So the people I interacted with could not tell how old I was. This enabled me to interact with them as equals. It helped, of course, that I was good with language and grammar and things like that, as even in text certain types of speech can give away a persons age or make them appear dumber than they are.

    I think it is very good when people have a chance to interact with kids. Sure, many of them will be jerks. But that’s because they have no frame of reference. They have no experience interacting with kids, and just assume they have nothing to offer. Kids are usually the same way with older people. Their shields are up because they get so much invective thrown their way for no good reason, so they expect to be mistreated by older people. The difference in age doesn’t even have to be great. 2 or 3 years is enough to put both parties in a situation where they expect the older one will take control, and the younger one must be subservient. People can’t have productive relationships of any kind , let alone beneficial friendships, with that kind of dynamic. I always make it a point to speak to kids as adults, and to not pre-judge them until I know them personally. I remember when I was their age and hung out online, and that’s what I always wanted and luckily usually got, and I think it benefitted me greatly. I got a jump-start compared to most of my peers in the self confidence that comes from realizing that people aren’t as different as external factors make them seem, and that you can usually get something out of interacting with almost anyone if you interact as equals.

    1. Very good post! This is pretty much what I think as well.

      I particularly liked (and agree with) this:
      People get worked up about ‘dangers’ online, but when it comes right down to it you’re still sitting in front of a device, safe in your home, looking at images, reading or hearing speech. And you have the power to walk away at any moment.

      The only thing I “disagree” with is this: “Our society has become remarkably striated over the past several decades.” ……… I just don’t think I’m a tree (or large bush). …. But, I get your drift. :-)

      Thanks.

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